Inquiry and Bloodlust

nuwanda13: irefusetobedefined: ddowney: i’m just gonna leave...

Wed, 05 Jun 2013 13:19:07 -0400

irefusetobedefined:

ddowney:

i’m just gonna leave this here as a reminder that “hitting bottom” doesn’t mean “staying on bottom for the rest of your life and dying as a piece of crap”

I will never, ever, not reblog this.

*huggles RDJ* Anyone on here who loves him, someone posted an amazing story about him when he was younger. I wish knew where the link was so I could share it. Instead, it’s just cut and pasted below. If I find the link, I’ll replace it with that.

I will also say that I have read this several times now and it still makes me cry.

“True story: His Name is Robert Downey Jr.” by Dana Reinhardt

I’m willing to go out on a limb here and guess that most stories of kindness do not begin with drug addicted celebrity bad boys.

    Mine does.

    His name is Robert Downey Jr.

    You’ve probably heard of him. You may or may not be a fan, but I am, and I was in the early 90’s when this story takes place.

    It was at a garden party for the ACLU of Southern California. My stepmother was the executive director, which is why I was in attendance without having to pay the $150 fee. It’s not that I don’t support the ACLU, it’s that I was barely twenty and had no money to speak of.

    I was escorting my grandmother. There isn’t enough room in this essay to explain to you everything she was, I would need volumes, so for the sake of brevity I will tell you that she was beautiful even in her eighties, vain as the day is long, and whip smart, though her particular sort of intelligence did not encompass recognizing young celebrities.

    I pointed out Robert Downey Jr. to her when he arrived, in a gorgeous cream-colored linen suit, with Sarah Jessica Parker on his arm. My grandmother shrugged, far more interested in piling her paper plate with various unidentifiable cheeses cut into cubes. He wasn’t Carey Grant or Gregory Peck. What did she care?

    The afternoon’s main honoree was Ron Kovic, whose story of his time in the Vietnam War that had left him confined to a wheelchair had recently been immortalized in the Oliver Stone film Born on the Fourth of July.

    I mention the wheelchair because it played an unwitting role in what happened next.

    We made our way to our folding chairs in the garden with our paper plates and cubed cheeses and we watched my stepmother give one of her eloquent speeches and a plea for donations, and there must have been a few other people who spoke but I can’t remember who, and then Ron Kovic took the podium, and he was mesmerizing, and when it was all over we stood up to leave, and my grandmother tripped.

    We’d been sitting in the front row (nepotism has its privileges) and when she tripped she fell smack into the wheelchair ramp that provided Ron Kovic with access to the stage. I didn’t know that wheelchair ramps have sharp edges, but they do, at least this one did, and it sliced her shin right open.

    The volume of blood was staggering.

    I’d like to be able to tell you that I raced into action; that I quickly took control of the situation, tending to my grandmother and calling for the ambulance that was so obviously needed, but I didn’t. I sat down and put my head between my knees because I thought I was going to faint. Did I mention the blood?

    Luckily, somebody did take control of the situation, and that person was Robert Downey Jr.

    He ordered someone to call an ambulance. Another to bring a glass of water. Another to fetch a blanket. He took off his gorgeous linen jacket and he rolled up his sleeves and he grabbed hold of my grandmother’s leg, and then he took that jacket that I’d assumed he’d taken off only to it keep out of the way, and he tied it around her wound. I watched the cream colored linen turn scarlet with her blood.

    He told her not to worry. He told her it would be alright. He knew, instinctively, how to speak to her, how to distract her, how to play to her vanity. He held onto her calf and he whistled. He told her how stunning her legs were.

    She said to him, to my humiliation: “My granddaughter tells me you’re a famous actor but I’ve never heard of you.”

    He stayed with her until the ambulance came and then he walked alongside the stretcher holding her hand and telling her she was breaking his heart by leaving the party so early, just as they were getting to know each other. He waved to her as they closed the doors. “Don’t forget to call me, Silvia,” he said. “We’ll do lunch.”

    He was a movie star, after all.

    Believe it or not, I hurried into the ambulance without saying a word. I was too embarrassed and too shy to thank him.

    We all have things we wish we’d said. Moments we’d like to return to and do differently. Rarely do we get that chance to make up for those times that words failed us. But I did. Many years later.

    I should mention here that when Robert Downey Jr. was in prison for being a drug addict (which strikes me as absurd and cruel, but that’s the topic for a different essay), I thought of writing to him. Of reminding him of that day when he was humanity personified. When he was the best of what we each can be. When he was the kindest of strangers.

    But I didn’t.

    Some fifteen years after that garden party, ten years after my grandmother had died and five since he’d been released from prison, I saw him in a restaurant.

    I grew up in Los Angeles where celebrity sightings are commonplace and where I was raised to respect people’s privacy and never bother someone while they’re out having a meal, but on this day I decided to abandon the code of the native Angeleno, and my own shyness, and I approached his table.

    I said to him, “I don’t have any idea if you remember this…” and I told him the story.

    He remembered.

    “I just wanted to thank you,” I said. “And I wanted to tell you that it was simply the kindest act I’ve ever witnessed.”

    He stood up and he took both of my hands in his and he looked into my eyes and he said, “You have absolutely no idea how much I needed to hear that today.”

actegratuit: Scorpion Dagger, on tumblr!

Wed, 05 Jun 2013 13:06:58 -0400

actegratuit:

Scorpion Dagger,

on tumblr!

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Wed, 05 Jun 2013 13:05:24 -0400

Quick ink sketch of the Main Street firehouse at Magic Kingdom...

Fri, 31 May 2013 22:53:09 -0400

Quick ink sketch of the Main Street firehouse at Magic Kingdom #art #artist #sketch #inkdrawings #inkdrawing #ink #inksketch #draw #drawings #disney #disneyworld #magickingdom #mainstreet

Sketch Rapunzels tower from Magic Kingdom #art #artist #sketch...

Fri, 31 May 2013 22:41:18 -0400

Sketch Rapunzels tower from Magic Kingdom #art #artist #sketch #draw #drawing #graphite #disneyworld #disney #magickingdom #tangled #rapunzel

Sketch of the Beasts castle from disney #art #artwork #sketch...

Fri, 31 May 2013 22:33:43 -0400

Sketch of the Beasts castle from disney #art #artwork #sketch #draw #drawing #disneyworld #disney #magickingdom #beautyandthebeast

From my Disney excursion today. Finally broke down and bought...

Fri, 31 May 2013 22:16:01 -0400

From my Disney excursion today. Finally broke down and bought one. #disney #magickingdom #disneyworld #mickeymouse #mickey

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Mon, 27 May 2013 19:20:00 -0400

tournesolmange-homme: Aluna the dik dik is only 8 inches...

Mon, 27 May 2013 19:18:49 -0400

tournesolmange-homme:

Aluna the dik dik is only 8 inches tall.

She didn’t bond with her mother, so she’s being raised by hand by the luckiest zookeeper ever at the Chester Zoo.

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Mon, 27 May 2013 19:18:02 -0400

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Mon, 27 May 2013 19:17:46 -0400

malformalady: A diving bell spider has captured a water flea...

Mon, 27 May 2013 19:17:30 -0400

malformalady:

A diving bell spider has captured a water flea and is consuming it inside the air-bubble chamber. In the ponds of northern Europe lives a tiny brown spider with a bubble on its back. The 10mm long Argyroneta aquatica is the only spider in the world that spends its entire life underwater. But just like land spiders, it needs oxygen to breathe. So every so often, it leaves its underwater web home to visit the surface and brings back a bubble of air that sticks to its hairy abdomen. It deposits the bubble into a little silk air tank spun for the purpose. This “diving bell,” researchers have now found, is not just a repository. It’s actually a gill that sucks oxygen from the water, from the water, allowing the spider to stay under for up to 24 hours.

Photo credit: Stefan Hetz

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Mon, 27 May 2013 19:16:42 -0400

tattoosforpassionnotfashion: done by cris cleen

Mon, 27 May 2013 19:15:55 -0400

tattoosforpassionnotfashion:

done by cris cleen

dirtyrottendan: Suicidal Tendencies!!

Mon, 27 May 2013 19:15:50 -0400

dirtyrottendan:

Suicidal Tendencies!!

babrahamlincoln: Last night, my university gave an honorary...

Mon, 27 May 2013 19:15:40 -0400

babrahamlincoln:

Last night, my university gave an honorary master’s degree to the service dog who sat through every one of his owner’s classes. He dressed appropriately for the ceremony.

i’m crying over here

tomasorban: brian-vu: Adficio */ this is the most intelligent...

Mon, 27 May 2013 19:14:52 -0400

tomasorban:

brian-vu:

Adficio

*/ this is the most intelligent art ive seen in ages -

beardsandmustachescrew: Posted him before but fuck it! His...

Mon, 27 May 2013 17:09:03 -0400

beardsandmustachescrew:

Posted him before but fuck it! His beard is just amazing!

www.beardsandmustachescrew.tumblr.com

xsouthofheavenx: oh hai

Mon, 27 May 2013 17:08:23 -0400

xsouthofheavenx:

oh hai

Gaston’s Tavern #disney #magickingdom #disney world with...

Wed, 15 May 2013 11:50:48 -0400

Gaston’s Tavern #disney #magickingdom #disney world with @samfantastico and @emilyveganx